DEMI'S ASPIRATION
My Journey to fulfilment
Motivational Messages
Good day guys,
As you may have read before, I had decided to make a monthly motivational message to uplift and encourage those who believe that what people may say determines the outcome and tell them that no matter who may tell you otherwise, you have the right to reach for your goals and the only way for that to happen is to try as hard as possible to become unstoppable gaining all the strength and self-esteem so that you get to the stage where you can finally be happy and contented with who you become.
Demilade
1. Thank you Lord
My thanks to God (Transcript)
Good day everyone. One thing to know about me:
My family and friends, know that when it comes to my relationship with God, I hold nothing more important. The reason why I am here today as healthy as can be is because of Him. My life story is too much to explain in a whole website but He has taken me out of many trials and tribulations that still confuse me till now.
There are some Bible verses which I hold so dearly and can relate to but one of my favourites are Jeremiah 30 verse 17.
In my life, many human beings have done a lot to bring me down mentally and I was giving in so quick that I didn’t even realise myself acting upon every word said to me. For example, when I got called a “watermelon” I had gotten a puffy jacket in which I would wear for almost the whole day at school so that no one would see my scoliosis bump. I used to get laughed at by people I had never even met before. If I was in the car, I would immediately push my seat down so that I would be saved from the embarrassment. I nearly to never went out because when I did, many would stare while a few others would just point at me and laugh.
Crying myself to sleep at night seemed like the only option until March 2020. Many people saw COVID lockdowns as a huge punishment but God gave it me as a blessing and I’m so grateful. He spoke to me one night through a Bible plan which literally told me that He wouldn’t leave me. This was near the end of March when I had just started getting closer to Him as I doubted His existence for everything He allowed to happen to me.
God speaks to me in many ways but one way is through clouds. So I didn’t really believe what I had heard even though I could see myself loosening up each day so when I got into the car for one of the last days of school, I was listening to some gospel music with my earphones in and then I looked up and a important word was spelt out to me. I was so confused that when I got home I busted into tears and then started to read more of the Bible plans. I took a little social break where I wasn’t on socials as much and used the time to have fun with my family and discover who i am as a person even more. I started to show my real vibes and started laughing so much more.
From that day, I had never doubted God’s existence because I know my story and how He made every crooked way straight for me and I give Him all my thanks because I know I’m a sinner but I’m going to do my best to become more like Him.
This is only a 1/10 of My Story/Journey but I really want it to be known that I’m here to support. If you feel ever like you’re too nervous to share your story, don’t be. Everyone has one whether they choose to admit it or not.
Gain the confidence you need to be able to see every insecurity as a beautiful thing that symbolises the trials you’ve had to go through to be where you are now. Just an email away. If you feel like you don’t have the self esteem or confidence to feel proud of who you are because of others comments, email me, by scrolling to the bottom of the page and filling out the form , and I will reply as fast as possible. Let’s move forward in this journey together. If you have also self grown mentally, still feel free to email or message me on socials and let’s share our thoughts and stories together.
Demilade ❤️
2. Wisdom
Wisdom (Transcript)
Wisdom is the ability to think and act using knowledge, experience, and understanding. If people continue to verbally address you over something you have no control over, gain wisdom. If you are wise, you will ignore them because they portray themselves as foolish and they will always ignore the wise.
They will try to make you feel ashamed over your immutable imperfections meaning they will always verbally shame you to make themselves seem better than you in every way no matter the flaws they may have. Yes They know we all have flaws but in order to hide theirs, they focus on others. To them, It’s like there’s a column to present people’s physical beauty but because they feel ugly they address others to rise up in the column and because their flaws are not diagnosed, they believe it’s so much better, but that’s not the case.
We are all unique and we all have the right to feel proud in our bodies no matter the disability.
Thank you for reading
- Demilade ❤️
3. Strength
Strength (Transcript)
Strength is the quality or state of feeling strong either mentally or physically.
This is a crucial virtue needed to continue moving forward. If you have the strength to listen to the ignorant and walk away unprovoked, success will seem simple no matter how you are approached by others. Each brick of the barrier will seem like it’s dropping one by one.
Oprah Winfrey once said “ where there is no struggle, there is no strength”. Portraying your strength is the key to overcoming weakness. When strength is gained, you will be saved from having to accept people’s way of expressing their jealousy using their verbal abuse because they are unable to accept their insecurities.
Doing this will lead to you being at peace and moving forward so that you will be able to aspire to be the best version of yourself.
Thank you for reading
- Demilade ❤️
3. Friends
FRIENDS (Transcript)
A lot Of people fail to recognise that not everybody around them is there to support them. They think to themselves that the fact that people are there knowing the flaws they have, it portrays themselves as a wonderful person and friend.
However there are many cons or disadvantages to these type of friendships.
Many people use the opportunity they have to bring others down to make themselves seem helpful. Many of you reading this may not understand. Let me break it down for you all. A lot of people tend to “tell” others of why they are being talked to kindly or why they receive the achievements they do. They relate these awards back to their medical conditions.
For example, I used to get told that teachers were kind to me because of pity and not because I was a nice person. I also got told that I received my achievements because of that same pity.
This is just a lesson that not everyone around you is there to comfort you. Many are there to make themselves feel like a much better person.
We need to learn that we deserve to be surrounded by others who care about our wellbeing and not just because we don’t want to be a loner. There is a huge difference between a buddy and a friend. Please let’s not bring ourselves down for anyone when we deserve much more.
Thank you for reading.
- Demilade ❤️
4. Staying Positive
Staying Positive (Transcript)
Staying positive is knowing how to stay calm even when the limits try to climb much higher than your abilities.
The tough times come but they don't last and I thank God for the person I am now. I was never proud or happy to be in my own body. I saw it as a punishment.
However, I now know that I shouldn’t have felt ashamed of how I looked because of my scoliosis. Beauty is from the inside. Only I can decide how my story goes and how it ends and being optimistic is the best feeling needed. It’s underrated.
Staying cheerful about life in general and what is to come creates a bigger mindset and goal to what we aspire to achieve.
It's a new year, so ask yourself, what things are you gonna do to make sure you get steps closer to reaching your goal? If you have been planning to do so, why are you still waiting? If you're scared of what others will say, why are you letting strangers choose your destiny? Life is short to be wasting time focusing on people who choose not to support you because you and I already know that you're capable of achieving all you set your mind to, if it's truly what you desire.
Push the bad energy away from you. It isn't needed nor wanted.
Thank you for reading.
- Demilade ❤️
5. Opinions
Opinions (Transcript)
Whether it’s to apply for a major job position or to take part in an event, it’s a choice only I should be able to make.
Having conditions that the world categorises as a limiting factor to your abilities, places you at the bottom of the ranking in their mind. But let me tell you something. Come quickly! We don’t care! Listen! We don’t care! Thank God we don’t need other people’s opinions to prosper in life. What is keeping you back, then?
As a result of my years of growing up with health issues, I've realised that people will always talk about the dangers of doing this and that and they'll even give you a whole list of reasons why that role might not be good for you, but.
1. Who are they to control your journey to such an extent?
2. Why don't they point up the advantages?
3. How can they control what will and won't happen?
I have another question for all of you. How committed are you to achieving that goal, and how confident are you in God's ability to make it happen? And don't say "a lot" because, while it is certainly easier said than done to go through your journey without caring, if you prioritise others' judgements on your life choices over your goals to the point of delaying your destiny, doesn't it appear differently?
Please, please and please don't let other people's opinions make you feel like your ambitions are unattainable, as I can confidently assure you that many others have likely attained the same goal you are now aspiring for.
One last thing I can tell you is that you only have one chance in life, so don't waste it or the possibilities that come your way. Choose wisely.
- Demilade ❤️